My main prayer was not let her not see me. Of course I didn't know how I would handle it and now I know...not good at all. This disease is horrible and they may not remember what has been said or done, but we as caregivers remember. Trust me, I do feel like walking away, and I know that I can't. I feel and have yelled and later ask God and her for forgiveness. Most times she doesn't remember what had happen, and if she does remember, I still apologize for my actions. Last thing I want to be is disrespectful to my mother.
Look at it this way, we aren't prefect and as long as we are in this flesh, we are going to make mistakes. The thing is, we need to be slow to speak and slow to anger, and I need to work on that quick. I often wonder if I was prepared for this part of life ahead of time, would I be different? But i don't think anyone will truly be prepared for this disease. Dementia is no joke! It has to be the cruelest disease out there, to be alive, but your brain is slowly dying.
Yes, I fear all that is yet to come and I pray the Lord will help me through it. I wish that I and so many other caregivers, had family that are willing to help care for them. I am slowly coming to terms that I'm pretty much in this alone. I do have a brother and he helps when he can. Trust me, I know his time is limited and he does his best to accommodate when I need him. No, I'm not making excuses for him, I just know what all is on his plate.
Everyone live their lives according to what is important to them. I have lived my life according to how my mother was feeling (I will explain that another time). But I recently saw a post saying, "once caregiving is over, there is no going back to what you use to be". For now, I got to adjust to what maybe the new normal...
Lord, Give me strength...
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